February 10, 1944 – February 13, 2021
Our dear friend Dell Kabir died peacefully at home in on February 13, 2021 at the age of 77 with friends and family close by. He was born on February 10, 1944 in Long Beach, California, to Mary Lou Clark, mother, and raised with her and his stepfather Don Flake. He is survived by his brothers Timothy, Daniel, and David, son Eric, and Granddaughter Aislin.
Dell came to Honolulu in the 1960s via the Navy and even spent some time as a police officer there. He fell deeply in love with the people and the great beauty of the islands, and made Hawaii his home. The islands always held a central place in his heart. Shortly after he settled in Honolulu, he met and married his sweetheart, Vivian.
In the early ‘70s, he participated in the Church of the Crossroads in Honolulu, during the days of the free speech and anti-war movements, reflecting the progressive political views he advocated. Throughout his life he always enjoyed engaging in impassioned political discussions.
He also had a lifelong interest in personal development and spirituality, which lead to his involvement with A Course in Miracles, light and sound meditation, and group therapy. During the ‘80s he lived in San Diego for some years and was trained in Rebirthing, hypnosis, and sex therapy/surrogacy. He took several trips to India to the ashram of Sri Sathya Sai Baba, and made pilgrimages to many holy cities and places.
Within his knapsack was always a copy of “The Kabir Book” with the poems of the mystic sufi-saint. He regaled his friends with his recitations, and his passionate delivery made the poetry accessible and real.
At heart, Dell was an artist, never an ambitious businessman. He was a sculptor and craftsman, but his greatest art was his passion for life and love. He was a dear and trusted friend to many, a confidant to whom one could turn and always find a willing, compassionate listener. Rather than giving advice, he did not hesitate to ask hard questions in a loving way, opening the possibility of new insight. Men considered him a brother, and for women he could be confided in like a best girlfriend. He will be lovingly remembered, and missed by many.
A small service will be held at the ocean on Saturday.